Coping with Grief This Christmas

Advice from Irish Hospice Foundation – www.bereaved.ie

As Christmas approaches, Irish Hospice Foundation is reminding people to take care of themselves and those around them who may have been recently bereaved, or who continue to feel the absence of loved ones at this time of year. Simple gestures like checking in, offering practical help, or gently acknowledging their loss can make a meaningful difference.

Bereavement Support Line

Irish Hospice Foundation’s Bereavement Support Line (1800 80 70 77) offers a confidential space to talk to a grief-trained volunteer.

• Open: 10am to 1pm, Monday to Friday
• Available up to and including Christmas Eve
• Reopens Monday to Friday (except New Year’s Day)

Practical Ways to Navigate Grief During the Festive Period

1. Plan Ahead
Acknowledge that Christmas will now be different. While you may choose to keep some traditions, others may need to change or be dropped altogether. Ask yourself which traditions are important to you and what you can reasonably cope with this year.

2. Keep Things Simple
Think about what is meaningful and realistic for you and discuss this with other family members. You might decide against an elaborate dinner or putting up decorations, for example.

3. Begin New Traditions
Some people start new traditions, such as visiting the grave on Christmas Eve, lighting a candle, or remembering the person in a toast.

4. Talk About Your Loved One
Let the people around you know if you are comfortable talking about the person who died. If you don’t mention their name, others may assume you don’t want them to mention it either.

5. Accept Offers of Help
Both practical and emotional help can make a difference. Those who love you want to support you, but you might need to let them know what you need (e.g., walking the dog, minding the kids, or putting the bins out).

6. Plan Quiet Time for Yourself
Grieving is tiring and energy-sapping. When you can, lie down or take a short walk. If you accept invitations, give yourself the option of changing your mind or leaving early if you need to.

7. Include Children in Planning
Ask children for their ideas on how to spend the day. Young children may need reassurance that Santa is still coming and to know that it’s okay to enjoy Christmas even if people are sad.

A Message from Irish Hospice Foundation

Catherine Tierney, Bereavement Clinical Manager of the Bereavement Support Line, says:

“It’s great to know that support is there for anyone who is bereaved AND for those wondering how best to support them.  Our lovely service (Bereavement Support Line 1800 807077) is here to listen and to guide and support.  We also signpost to services (e.g. if someone wanted to find out about counselling options in their area).  Some callers really struggle as they approach their first Christmas without a loved one; some find the second Christmas even harder & lonelier as others move on with their lives.  Our volunteers are professionally trained in grief and loss, and they really understand.  Please do call us.  10am-1pm (Monday-Friday)." ** Closed Christmas Day, Stephen’s Day & New Year’s Day.

Find More Resources

Irish Hospice Foundation also produce a free Grief at Christmas leaflet which can be ordered on 01 679 3188 or email info@hospicefoundation.ie.

For more information and resources on coping with grief, including guidance for families and children, visit www.bereaved.ie.